Growing up as an introvert, I used to dread having conversations with people I didn’t know well. In this article I will discuss 6 ways to speak better , It will be like an Introverts Guide to be a Conversationalist
When we communicate effectively we are able to express our ideas and opinions, share experiences, and build relationships with others. When we struggle to express ourselves, we feel unvalued and insecure. As human beings, we want to participate in group discussions and have an impact on the society around us.
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What you need is to become a self-directed learner, somebody who takes responsibility for their own learning and creates their own learning programme to develop their speaking skills. However, you could say the same about many activities. Virat Kohli became a wonderful cricketer because he spent hours every day for many years practising by himself.
You have to do the same! Give your time to practice.
There are some ways I used for myself. Hope it may helpful for you😊
6 ways to speak better : An Introverts Guide to be a Conversationalist.
1. Record yourself while speaking–
Listening to yourself can be strange at first but you get used to it. Listen to a recording of a fluent speaker (a short audio file) and then record yourself repeating what they said. Compare the difference and try again. Humans are natural mimics so you will find yourself getting better and better. Practice telling stories and using narrative tenses. So listening to your own recorded speech is effectively the same as listening to someone else speak.
The rest is just a matter of further practice!
2. Start singing–
Sing along to English songs while you’re driving or taking a shower. The lyrics to pop songs are often conversational so you can learn lots of common expressions by listening to them. Humans are also able to remember words when used together with music which is why it is difficult to remember poems but easy to remember the words to songs. Listening to a song in English will allow you pick up on new words and phrases. Singing along to songs and looking up their lyrics will help you practice English.
3. Ask questions and paraphrase
So I’ve been told I ask a lot of questions.
I’ve also heard curiosity killed the cat. You can draw your own conclusions from that. But I digress…
Ask questions to clarify your understanding of what the other person said. Also, paraphrasing is a great tool to use to show the other person that you’re really listening to. We all find ourselves in situations when we can’t find the correct word to say. You know what you want to say, but it just won’t come out! Many people refer to the phenomenon as being ‘tongue-tied’. For this paraphrasing is the best way!
4. Keep the focus on the audience–
Stop thinking about yourself and focus on your audience. As you prepare, consider: What does my audience need? Why are they here? How can I help them? Focusing on your goals and their needs will help shift your perspective. Keep your focus on your purpose and your audience. The more you think about them, the less time you have to think about yourself and how much you don’t want to do this. When you agree to speak, do your homework. How large will your audience be? How long are you to speak? What type of presentation is expected? The more you know, the easier it will be to prepare. Write and create your presentation well in advance. Waiting until the last minute doesn’t make it easier and creates additional stress.
5. Always remember to state your opinions with conviction-
Before you speak, you have to make sure you really believe in what you say, whether you’re saying that Armaan’s new album is amazing or for any political annotation. You don’t have to sound arrogant to get your point across and to sound like you really believe in what you’re saying instead of turning to other people for validation or approval. At last, Your way of speaking defines you. Be careful of the words you use while speaking.
Remember- If you improve by 1% every day, within a year you will have improved by 365%
6. Expand your vocabulary–
The backbone of speaking skill for me is Vocab. It takes around 50% of weightage alone in the learning process. Learn New Words Every Day
Gleaning new words a day in, day out is a good way to widen your vocabulary. Commit to a suitable target: it can be three daily words or it can be ten daily words. Even if you only have time to learn one new word per day, it is still worth trying.
I personally learnt from the newspaper, the easiest way to practice vocabulary. Start reading newspaper, you may find news words, underline them. Now, search for their synonyms. As easy as that. Try this!
“Small daily improvement’s over time lead to stunning results”.
Do not forget to practice as much as possible. Hopefully, this list has given you a good place to start to build your speaking skills a bit at a time. If you think about it, there are opportunities all around you to develop this important skill.
This article is authored by Diksha Jain
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